When You Are Confused, Do Nothing

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When we are confused there is an incongruity between what we are feeling and what we are thinking. Something in our head is telling us to move forward and, at the same time, another equally strong feeling is holding us back. This impasse is not something we need to willfully plow through, but rather a point at which to stop and reevaluate where we are going.

Confusion points the way to a new beginning and will not allow us to take the first path that allays our anxiety. The first path is always the path we know, the way that is familiar and "makes sense." It is very tempting to follow this path, and, if it were not for that nagging inner voice, we would surely go down this road. In addition, most of us are so used to moving quickly that any hesitation is interpreted as a sign of weakness. But we need to slow down and get in touch with what is really going on.

When there is a gap between our heart and our head, we become confused. The part that is on automatic is telling us to move ahead, but the part that is coming to consciousness is telling us to wait. This is because we aren't yet ready to make a decision. There are still parts of the puzzle coming together, and, if we act prematurely, we will most likely select a course of action that will not be in our best interest.

The best way I know to deal with confusion is to sit down in the middle of the floor. In a second, the craziness will stop. Maybe sitting on the floor is nuttier than the confusion, or maybe an act so isolated has the power to stop a tangle of feelings and thoughts and bring us back to square one. Either way, the act of sitting recenters us, and we are back in our bodies where we can feel. The feeling is solid and unequivocal and inherently gives us permission to explore the conflicting messages we are getting. We may not get all the pieces at once, but slowly things become clearer. Most importantly, we learn the only time to move is when everything says, "Go!" and not a moment before.

By allowing new feelings to emerge without judgment, we filter and sift new ideas, trying them on for size. We begin to understand that changes take place incrementally and that to rush the process is to invite in confusion. There will be a right time for the change, a way that works for us. There is no timetable for getting clear, only the commitment we make to be real, no matter how long it takes. From this place, confusion is converted to clarity. We are in synch. What initially produced anxiety is now exciting and becomes part of the grand adventure. Rather than feel apprehensive and out of control, we allow the changes to happen in a graceful way. And for the moment, we are at peace.

The last day of Commonwealth in India----

Rank Nation Gold Silver Bronze Total
1 Australia 74 54 48 176
2 India 38 27 36 101
3 England 37 59 45 141
4 Canada 26 17 32 75
5 South Africa 12 11 10 33
6 Kenya 12 11 9 32
7 Malaysia 12 10 13 35
8 Singapore 11 11 9 31
9 Nigeria 11 10 14 35
10 Scotland 9 10 7 26
11 New Zealand 6 22 8 35
12 Cyprus 4 3 5 12
14 Samoa 3 0 1 4
15 Wales 2 7 10 19
16 Jamaica 2 4 1 7
17 Pakistan 2 1 2 5
18 Uganda 2 0 0 2
19 Bahamas 1 1 3 5
20 Sri Lanka 1 1 1 3
21 Nauru 1 1 0 2
22 Botswana 1 0 3 4
26 Cameroon 0 2 4 6
27 Ghana 0 1 3 4
28 Namibia 0 1 2 3
29 Seychelles 0 1 0 1
31 Isle of Man 0 0 2 2
31 Mauritius 0 0 2 2
31 Tonga 0 0 2 2
34 Bangladesh 0 0 1 1
34 Guyana 0 0 1 1
34 Saint Lucia 0 0 1 1
- Anguilla 0 0 0 0
- Barbados 0 0 0 0
- Belize 0 0 0 0
- Bermuda 0 0 0 0
- Brunei 0 0 0 0
- Cook Islands 0 0 0 0
- Dominica 0 0 0 0
- Gambia 0 0 0 0
- Gibraltar 0 0 0 0
- Grenada 0 0 0 0
- Guernsey 0 0 0 0
- Jersey 0 0 0 0
- Kiribati 0 0 0 0
- Lesotho 0 0 0 0
- Malawi 0 0 0 0
- Maldives 0 0 0 0
- Malta 0 0 0 0
- Montserrat 0 0 0 0
- Mozambique 0 0 0 0
- Niue 0 0 0 0
- Rwanda 0 0 0 0
- Saint Helena 0 0 0 0
- Sierra Leone 0 0 0 0
- Swaziland 0 0 0 0
- Tanzania 0 0 0 0
- Tuvalu 0 0 0 0
- Vanuatu 0 0 0 0
- Zambia 0 0 0 0
Total 271 273 281 824[5]

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Leaders Develop Daily, Not In a Day

A group of American tourists walked through a quaint English village in wonderment. They were enamored by the town's winding cobblestone streets, the beauty of its courtyards and plazas, and the sense of history emanating from its ancient churches. While strolling through the local park, the tourists struck up conversation with an elderly gentleman and found out that he had lived in the town for his entire life. One of the Americas, eager to hear more about the town's history, asked, "Sir, have any great men been born in this village?" "Nope," said the old man, "only babies."

Personal Growth Is a Process

In our twenties, we think ahead to when we'll be ideally situated in our career, positioned to do exactly what we enjoy, and enjoying immense influence in our occupation. Like children on the way to Disneyland, we impatiently await arrival at our destination instead of appreciating the journey there. However, as we age we encounter an uncomfortable truth: growth doesn't happen automatically. We cannot coast through life hoping one day to stumble across our dreams. Unless we set aside time to grow into the person we desire to be, we'll not reach our potential.

Leaders develop daily, not in a day. They commit themselves to the process of growth, and over time they reap the rewards of daily investments in their development. In this lesson, I'd like to share five principles to encourage you to adopt a lifestyle of personal growth.

#1 Growth is the great separator of those who succeed and those who do not.

When I went to college, there was no gap between my peers and me-none at all. We started on the same level. However, at the age of 17, I made a commitment to spend an hour a day on my personal growth. I studied and read, filing the lessons I learned along the way. Now, in most cases, the gap between my former classmates and me is pretty wide. Am I smarter than they are? Absolutely not. Many of them got better grades than I did in college. It's the growth factor-my commitment to the process of personal growth-that has made the difference.

#2 Growth takes time, and only time can teach us some things.

When it comes to personal growth, you cannot substitute for time. Yet, the mere passage of time doesn't make you wise. Experience is not the best teacher; evaluated experience is the best teacher. To gain insights from your experience, you have to engage in reflective thinking. I have a habit of taking ten minutes every evening to look back on the day. As I reflect on what happened, lessons emerge, and I capture them in my notebook so that I can learn from them.

#3 Growth inside fuels growth outside.

The highest reward of our toil is not what we get for it, but who we become by it. At the age of 17, I decided that I would read, file, and begin to prepare lessons. From that simple discipline I accumulated a wealth of content that fueled my speaking and writing. I never set out to be a leadership specialist; I was simply diligent about reading, filing, and studying. With respect to personal growth, take the long view on results. The most important question to ask is not "What am I getting?" from the discipline of personal growth, the most important question is, "Who am I becoming?"

#4 Take responsibility for your own growth.

For 15 to 20 years, the school system holds us responsible for growth. Educational curriculum clearly spells out, "here's what you do next," and "here's the next step." Then we graduate with diplomas and certificates, and we no one longer have anyone to map out the next step for us. If we want to continuing growing, we have to do it ourselves. We have to put together a game plan so that we become students of life who are always expanding our minds and drawing upon our experiences.

#5 Determine the areas of your life in which you need to grow.

You've probably heard someone say, "You can do anything as long as you put your mind to it." Sadly, as nice as that sounds, it simply isn't true. In watching people grow, I have discovered that, on a scale of 1-10, people can only improve about two notches. For instance, I love to sing; that's the good news. The bad news is that I can't carry a tune. Now, let's be generous and say that, as a singer, I'm a "two." If I put lots of money, effort, and energy into developing my voice, perhaps I can grow into a "four." News flash: on a ten-point scale, four is still below average. With regards to my career, it would be foolish for me to focus my personal growth on my voice. At best, I'd only become an average singer, and no one pays for average.

Don't work on your weaknesses. Devote yourself to fine-tuning your strengths. I work exceptionally hard on personal growth in four areas of my life. Why only four? Because I'm only good at four things. I lead, communicate, create, and network. That's it. Outside of those areas, I'm not very valuable. However, within those areas of strength I have incredible potential to make a difference.


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Mandatory things.... To be the BOSS

For being some one who can start something of there own... we must need following things :

1. Dream
2. Vision
3. Commitment

4. Resources
4a --- Knowledge of the area
4b --- Money To invest
4c --- Power to own risk

5. Personal Qualities
5a. Interest
5b. Time Invest
5c. Money Invest
5d. Belief
5e.Team Player
5f. Proactive
5g. Regular

It's All About The Day

Yes this is... we have n number of times heard that don't worry you too will get some great thing at some special day... that special day will be only for you and you will be the whole sole owner of that. And at the age of 26 i too realise yes that is true even today.. when i get fail in interview i console myself with that... when i see some one in luxury and happiness i think the same line.. when i heard that some one has been there where i was always dreaming to be the same line strikes me again... So i have a number of situation when the line come to me and i accept them as ok some day i too will have the day of mine. :)

Ayodhya... when they will allow to close this...

It is five days from the very well know verdict of the Indian history... but it is still hot in the ambiance of every news paper, magazine and news channel. I am not sure if this was sometime when they really wanted to en cash them and were not able to get that ... that's why they are still trying to en cash after selling the corpus.

You talk about the people from the political party they are all feeling bad that how the majority of Indian people irrespective of their religion are happy and having no conflict about the matter and more over there are happenings when after the verdict of the court people wanted to have a out of court settlement. This is something new and that new which is color of new India is not digestible by the News paper News Agencies and Political Parties.


I hope things will go good in the near future.. but how when the system on the top is not good.

Updates From Commonwealth Games :

The journey which begins yesterday continued today by the shooting superstars of india :

1 .India win 2nd Gold in shooting at the Commonwealth Games. Anisa Sayyed and Rahi Sarnobat win gold in 25m standard pistol pairs.

2 . Abhinav Bindra and Gagan Narang won gold medal in Pairs 10m air rifle and created Commonwealth Games record.

On Day 1, women lifters Soniya Chanu and Sandhya Devi Rani opened the medal chest for India by grabbing the silver and bronze in the 48 kg class.

Chanu, favourite for the 48 kg gold medal, could not justify her billing and settled for silver by clearing 167 kg which was eight kg below Nwaokolo''s total clearance. Sandya Rani took the bronze with a total clearance of 165 kg.

First Day Of Common Wealth

THe Story Of CommomWealth 2010

It was the great day for all the people living in or out of India, we have show cased our much of quality and experience in putting the third largest game into the shape and not only got appreciation but also self satisfaction that we have overcome all the much talked criticism of the world and media.

When at around 6.30 PM, Sunday 3rd Of October the honorable president of India Smt. Pratibha Devi Singh Patil stated that let the commonwealth begins ... the 60000 of crowd stood and cheered so that the complete delhi will hear the roar of India pride and prestige and what to say about the after events:

The namskaaram, the Yoga presentations and all the other events including the Legendry songs of A.R. Rahman everything was fantastic.

I must say though we can't forget the mismangement in CWG but yes we appriciate that how we have started our 11 days journey.

May god help us to retain this.

And Finally The outcome say's ... All IZZ Well

And finally the much awaited day has given the extra ordinary response from the judges as well as from the people of the India. The much awaited hue and cry over the ayodhya issue stopped same as it begins. And bravo to the indian janta who took the result with all positive attitude and a step forward towards the democratic line and peace and harmony that the complete world is surprised.

I just hope .. that go where ever you want to .. may be it is supreme court or a SAMJHOTA ground but make sure that no one can take the political advantage out of this. Now this is our responsibility after the court to maintain the law and order in the country and prove the early advantage from the decision as the real victory of Indian people. Who are now having the firm belief in Indian Democracy.

Ayodhya Verdict and Indian Janta

Just before the few more minutes of the Ayodhya verdic it is great to see the national integration through out the whole india and all sectors , religion and people of all kind. Everone is saying in one word that it is not the last leg not the last step and not the last decision so why to worry. We have to maintain the peace and hormony among us , we have to maintain the law and order everything which is require for the goodwill of the mankind and our country. As by any ways we are having a greater responsiblity on our shoulder and the world has it's eyes on us through the way of Commonwealth games. So this is the time when we can prove that yes we are not only the largest democracy but also the most consistend and robut democracy as well.


And also i appraise that personlly the media which was becoming more of the SMS show and glamour and TRP oriented has taken the resposibilty for this most sensibel area and they are also not any ways speculating the results and only giving us the info which is needed by the people.

Good job done.

And don't worry we will make our country proud by accepting the decision by the court.

Verdict Of Ayodhya and Common Wealth

It's like talking to two completely different issues having similar reaction. You talk about Ayodhya people are nervous you talk about Commonwealth people are again nervous. So i am not able to understand what's the bigger common thing in between these two let's check them on following ground :


Severity :

If i talk about Ayodhya it's a matter of two religion, public sentiments and national integration and more over a question on our democracy.

If we talk about commonwealth it's again about public money, national pride and our international accountancy.

Reason :

If i say in common then the top one is Politics which intern gives rise to week decisions and intern made the situation worst by making them not a public matter but a political hue and cry.


And one more common thing is that, common man may be going to see very soon something unpredictable in indian history may be it's out hosting of common wealth or the court holding the judgment of Ayodhya issue.

Hope for the best.

Commonwelth New -- A Wealth to whom ?

It is really great that we are going to host the second biggest gaming event of the world.. a great symbol of Honor to the country like India. When we are the second largest and fastest growing economy. Still lots of hotch potch, news of corruption, and few more out of bound things which are termed as natural calamities like Heavy Rain and Fluid.. though this not first year when Delhi is in this problem but every time we have same situation no measuring steps.. no proper plans and now the situation it that at one end we have invested thousand of crore rupees and put our prestige on the top for review in terms of common wealth and at other end a high level mismanagement and corruption and terrorism is firing on Delhi. I just can hope and pray to god save our prestige.

Here are few hot news for the same...
1.
England's star trio pull out of Commonwealth Games

And for more details click on the link below

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The Story Of Dabang ----

No perception... no thought only one thing which DABANG has proved is .. that if you know how to sell you can do anything in this world...


Salute to sallu bhaiya....

Please find the links of the famous songs from there...

01 - Chori Kiya Re Jiya - Sonu Nigam & Shreya Ghoshal

02 - Dabangg Theme - Salman Khan

03 - Humka Peeni Hai - Wajid, Master Saleem & Shabaab Sabri

04 - Munni Badnaam - Mamta Sharma & Aishwarya

05 - Tere Mast Mast Do Nain - Rahat Fateh Ali Khan

06 - Tere Mast Mast Do Nain 1 - Rahat Fateh Ali Khan & Shreya Ghoshal

07 - Udd Udd Dabaang - Sukhwinder Singh & Wajid

Valentine's Day Mesages ---

Saint Valentine's Day (commonly shortened to Valentine's Day) is an annual holiday held on February 14 celebrating love and affection between intimate companions.The holiday is named after one or more early Christian martyrs named Valentine and was established by Pope Gelasius I in AD 496. It is traditionally a day on which lovers express their love for each other by presenting flowers, offering confectionery, and sending greeting cards (known as "valentines"). The holiday first became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished.


Some Famous Love Quotes -----------------------------------------------

It still seems like a magic
everytime I miss u and remember
how love softly touched our hearts
bringing in together
I love you lots Happy Valentines Day

Sweeter than the candies
lovelier than the red roses
more huggable than soft toys
that's what you're
here's wishing you a very happy valentines day
that's as special as you're

Love can be expressed in many ways. One way I know is to send it across the distance to the person who is reading this.

A kiss is just a kiss till u find the 1 u luv. A hug is just a hug till u find the 1 u're always thinkin of. A dream is just a dream till it comes true. Luv was just a word till I heard it from u.

I love all the stars in the sky, but they are nothing compared to the ones in your eyes!

In school they taught me that; 1 hour = 60 min.1 min = 60 sec. but they never told me that; 1 sec. without U = 100 years

I don’t give you flowers to tell you you’re special
I don’t give you chocolates for your sweetness
I don’t give you teddy bears for your cares
Just look at my eyes and you’ll know . how much I love you

I love you not because you are beautiful
I love you not because you are rich
I love you not because you have the characteristics that I am looking for
I love you, simply because you are what you are.
Happy Valentine’s Day!

A lovely day is made up of 24 hours.
A lovely week is made up of 7 lovely days.
A lovely year is made up of 52 lovely weeks
But my life became lovely just .because I love you

Without Love — days are
“SadDay, MoanDday, TearsDay,
WasteDay, ThirstDay,
FrightDay, ShatterDay…
So be in Love everyday…
Wish u a Happy Valentine’s Day!

When you love someone, it’s nothing. When someone loves you, it’s something.

When you love someone & they love you back, it’s everything