Leaders Develop Daily, Not In a Day

A group of American tourists walked through a quaint English village in wonderment. They were enamored by the town's winding cobblestone streets, the beauty of its courtyards and plazas, and the sense of history emanating from its ancient churches. While strolling through the local park, the tourists struck up conversation with an elderly gentleman and found out that he had lived in the town for his entire life. One of the Americas, eager to hear more about the town's history, asked, "Sir, have any great men been born in this village?" "Nope," said the old man, "only babies."

Personal Growth Is a Process

In our twenties, we think ahead to when we'll be ideally situated in our career, positioned to do exactly what we enjoy, and enjoying immense influence in our occupation. Like children on the way to Disneyland, we impatiently await arrival at our destination instead of appreciating the journey there. However, as we age we encounter an uncomfortable truth: growth doesn't happen automatically. We cannot coast through life hoping one day to stumble across our dreams. Unless we set aside time to grow into the person we desire to be, we'll not reach our potential.

Leaders develop daily, not in a day. They commit themselves to the process of growth, and over time they reap the rewards of daily investments in their development. In this lesson, I'd like to share five principles to encourage you to adopt a lifestyle of personal growth.

#1 Growth is the great separator of those who succeed and those who do not.

When I went to college, there was no gap between my peers and me-none at all. We started on the same level. However, at the age of 17, I made a commitment to spend an hour a day on my personal growth. I studied and read, filing the lessons I learned along the way. Now, in most cases, the gap between my former classmates and me is pretty wide. Am I smarter than they are? Absolutely not. Many of them got better grades than I did in college. It's the growth factor-my commitment to the process of personal growth-that has made the difference.

#2 Growth takes time, and only time can teach us some things.

When it comes to personal growth, you cannot substitute for time. Yet, the mere passage of time doesn't make you wise. Experience is not the best teacher; evaluated experience is the best teacher. To gain insights from your experience, you have to engage in reflective thinking. I have a habit of taking ten minutes every evening to look back on the day. As I reflect on what happened, lessons emerge, and I capture them in my notebook so that I can learn from them.

#3 Growth inside fuels growth outside.

The highest reward of our toil is not what we get for it, but who we become by it. At the age of 17, I decided that I would read, file, and begin to prepare lessons. From that simple discipline I accumulated a wealth of content that fueled my speaking and writing. I never set out to be a leadership specialist; I was simply diligent about reading, filing, and studying. With respect to personal growth, take the long view on results. The most important question to ask is not "What am I getting?" from the discipline of personal growth, the most important question is, "Who am I becoming?"

#4 Take responsibility for your own growth.

For 15 to 20 years, the school system holds us responsible for growth. Educational curriculum clearly spells out, "here's what you do next," and "here's the next step." Then we graduate with diplomas and certificates, and we no one longer have anyone to map out the next step for us. If we want to continuing growing, we have to do it ourselves. We have to put together a game plan so that we become students of life who are always expanding our minds and drawing upon our experiences.

#5 Determine the areas of your life in which you need to grow.

You've probably heard someone say, "You can do anything as long as you put your mind to it." Sadly, as nice as that sounds, it simply isn't true. In watching people grow, I have discovered that, on a scale of 1-10, people can only improve about two notches. For instance, I love to sing; that's the good news. The bad news is that I can't carry a tune. Now, let's be generous and say that, as a singer, I'm a "two." If I put lots of money, effort, and energy into developing my voice, perhaps I can grow into a "four." News flash: on a ten-point scale, four is still below average. With regards to my career, it would be foolish for me to focus my personal growth on my voice. At best, I'd only become an average singer, and no one pays for average.

Don't work on your weaknesses. Devote yourself to fine-tuning your strengths. I work exceptionally hard on personal growth in four areas of my life. Why only four? Because I'm only good at four things. I lead, communicate, create, and network. That's it. Outside of those areas, I'm not very valuable. However, within those areas of strength I have incredible potential to make a difference.


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Success>Failure>Dreams>Destiny>Defeat .What else is there in life?

Success>Failure>Dreams>Destiny>Defeat .What else is there in life?…
This looks like either OSHO or Sri Sri Sri…somebody is going to put some sort of inspirational lecture on this high handed topic. But no this is something which is one of the most common thought coming in everyone’s mind, and that also so frequently that i can say at least two times in every day.

Why i am running high?
What are my goals?
Why the failure is sad?
What is success?
Why ever problem and solution have a successor?
When we will stop chasing our unrealistic dreams?

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So this is something which every body want’s, thinks, and feel. What all we can do to achieve we want….

I have something stolen from AIRTEL, for you which i believe is the best thing to tell:

Nigahen nigahon…..se mila kar toh dekho.
Naye logon se rishta …bana kar toh dekho.
Hasratein dil mein dabane se kya haasil hoga.
apne hoth… ……hila kar toh dekho.
Khamoshi se kab hoti hai…khwahishein poori,
dil ki baat bata kar toh dekho.
“Jo hai dil mein usey kar… …do bayaan.
Khud ko ek baar jata kar toh dekho.
Aasmaan……simat jayega tumhare aaghosh mein,
chahat ki bahein phaila kar toh dekho…
Dil ki baat bata kar toh dekho…

This is something which i feel is really the replication of the path of success. This is a way of living which tells that though we all have different dreams, different aims and different priorities, still we need something in common. As over any thing, we are living for a life full of enjoyment and certainly “Life is a succession of moments. To live each one is to succeed.”….

So jio jam ke jio.

Life–> I am searching you …..

No..no..no Dont expect it as a philoshiphical or spritual or mental post [:P]. As i dont want to put you in the truma of tough sessions like yoga or something. I just wanted to know more that why i encountered a problem with the thought “That —> Life is something which i am searching and i am not sure about the success of my search”. I really hate whenever i think or work around google. Obviously yaar how smart a software it is, searches all along the web thousands and sometimes millions of pages related to life and concepts…. jai ho baba “Larry Page ki”. And at the other end there is me who even from past 25 yrs searching for the basic facts of life…..

1. What is the aim we are living.

2. Why the situation some time becomes so worst that we are unable to tackle them.

3. why blah blah blah….

So why…shuldn’t my dreams get frustrated enough to commit whatever ppl say as suc-ide [:)].

This is i hope the solo reason why some time ppl get settled with the compromised attitude and life style and believe that this was a god hand written rule and we can’t help it.

Then suddenly i realizes that ok all well …but do i really have the passion to know about the life..and if yes then i have a check list…..ans this:

1. Who are you?

2. What is the objective you have?

3. And what for your dreams comprises?

$. What you really want to be.

6. A specific punch line for you.

And i can bet on this that many of us or better to say 9.9 out of 10 will not be able to ans half of them, and rest i never count the exceptions like….”Every time a safe sex is not safe” [:P].

jokes apart…

So do we really search for the things we admire, we dream and if not ……wait…..wait….don’t say that this is similar to commitment. Believe me this is much more than commitment. This is a real interview of yours with the have and have nots of you possess.

Can you still say that you have the dying attitude to know about the life…..same as what Bindra was having when he shooted the birds eye.

And if you have the ans for this then the topic is no more boring for you ….you got the light ..cherish it..live it.

And say proudly——>>>>>>>> “Dreams I Am Coming”.

Ab Mujeh Badalna hai ……..

This is not because i am sad with my present status or something. This is because ppl are suggesting me to make myself as local as “Cutting in mumbai”, or “Dossa and Idali in south”.

I also dont want to change myself neither due to the reason that musraff left pakistan vergin nor due to the reson that leftist again want to pull the congress down.

The solo reason is this that some times “Chaay with band makhaan is much more adorable than the Cappachino in McD, the so called bhandaara plalce for middel age working group”.

As i told this i just want to know that why ppl are so concious and obsessed with the single cup of cocke in Mcd with the price of 45rs than the 1/2 lt of cock bottel in the dhabba shop just aside the door…they simply want to carry the brand or they want to carry some…”Crispy and crunchy voices,looks , images, birds…..whatever….”. Plz do reply hann ? :) .

Haan to main kya kah raha tha ……ya, sach main i tried a lot to overburden myself with the tough language criteria and grammar type of things which no where making me the replication of my own self.

So i vivek tiwari with full of my hosho hawaas and presence of my mind taking an oth that now onwards i will not sell the samosa packed in a wrapper bole to i will put the creativity not the language.

God Bless me.

i [miss] or mess my college days

Don’t feel bad and not surprised even …plz….yaar mery life hai if i am feeling it then kya hua. Nothing na. But yes this is true. Though i don’t know how much you agree with me and how many of you disagree (concentrate on much and many ;-) . Seriously whenever i recall then i got few lines running behind me like “micca running behind rakhi sawant” and out of those few were like:

1. Xl ki kudiyaan wah wah bhi wah

2. Those were the best days of my life

3. Din bhar kaam nahi aaram…

3. Sabka kata hai … [Sorry i can not give you the link :-) ]

So does it means all were sweet enough to recall or there were something which i am hiding. Those cold and heated comments of Profs who used to say that i am one of the most useless channel of his class, or the opinion of my friends who used to say that i am a so prominent bugger that i can give classes to “Raju Srivastava”.

The green park of our college which must be abusing us for digging and eating all the greenery like Buffalo,

The broken windows of every class where we stay for more than 1 day,

Every bench of the library which are still the manuscript of all the love and lovers and various uncensored dialogues which Nagesh kukunurr must love for his next movie,

and moreover anything…

The staircases of the college which are red colored not due to the sincerity of college management but due to the voluntarily mouth wash of my guttka loving fnds,

and how can i forget my hostel which was the best example of change:

you come at 9 o clock morning it is like an uncensored movie, ppl with and without cloths are trying to bath, to dress, to impress, to hide…..and many more.

you come at 12 o clock in the noon…… we are the morons, can eat anything……..and hygiene: ……….from where this world came to dictionary?….. ….i hope my hostel is not the right ans.

you come at 6 in the evening ……i can bet that Olympics can get many new champions and many new games to play and to include in list of games they formally have.

you come at 12 in the night …uffffffff this is not the right place to describe , we are hiding the things in the closed rooms and hearing everything with the earphone which we usually and casually use for secret reasons ;-) .

and hell ! you come at 3 o clock in the night …..and then you will realize that we have a call center office at each of the building floor near the staircase, the flower pot, the balcony and our sincerity employees are busy in different type of ascent and facial expressions in solving the customers problems [i hope you can understand that who are the customers]……but don’t ask.. :-) what and who are the customers ?

Finally the morons are on the bed.
And while sleeping i am realizing that i had lost those days when reality means dreams and dreams were beautiful. I can’t say that do i really miss or do i really messed my college days. But one thing about which i am pretty sure is I really loved my college days.

Friends orrrrrrrr FRI-> ENDs

Let’s discuss some of the thing which we really don’t want to discuss. What friends means to us and how we can fight for this word.

PPl who live arround you with the all the sharing of good and bad feelings are your friend …?

ppl with whom you shares all the secrets and nonsecret things are your friends…?

ppl who proves his worth with the puchline “A friend in a need is a friend indeed” are your friend..?

or ppl who really care about you and never shows the feelings through the word are your friend…?

None can define the exact, and precisely it is not possible. Indeed. Then why this word is lossing his worth and meaning i dont know about you but in genral cases and i am not saying this about me even, touchwood that i have good fnds deep inside me.

Why a fnd is worried about his fnd’s success, in negative senese..?

Why a fnd used to know about the progress of his fnd again in the gray shades..?

Why a fnd is happy but not in the same context as he or she should be, when his so called best fnd achives something great..?

I don’t know but yes i can say that all the relation is in trouble if this is a reality which modern genration is going through …And if success is realtive and the only parameter of having fnd’s and makind fnd’s then i must say that there is nthg wrong if above all lines are applicable to you or to your fnds. As this is the mandatory thing which must be fallowed by we all to have the Demo of fndship.

Why you are thinking negative when you are dreaming positive

The billionaires often scared of, poor often worried and mediocre often thinks of defeat even then they all dreams for the peak. Why this contradiction take place. Why your dreams are not making you powerful even they are making you weak, why? Reason is simple you are not a dreamer as there is a famous saying “Dreams are not which you see while you sleep, Dreams are something which never let’s you sleep until they realized” you are simply a passer by of thoughts who see and forget. True enough. Question which is arises now is why people can’t make a right decision in between these to thing’s their dreams and their work? Who stops them? And what makes them nostalgic?

Ans of each of the question is simple and straightforward “Lack of passion”. Though we all see it but each is not having the same passion for it neither all having same do or die attitude so either they forget it or they make a memoir of it so that in future they can say proudly that it was also my dream so what if i was coward enough to make it true now my successor’s will live it for me. Bull shit.

Friends either don’t see it or plz make it true because i am not going to see anybody living any body Else’s dream. As this is the complete debacle of ones own creativity and thoughts. So either have the guts so that you can realize it or live the simple life of eat drink and be marry. There is no need to be the one who dreams the future.

Path holes : In the way of dream

“Though i know this is not wrong decision still it is being proved to be wrong as many of us feels so”. This thought usually comes to all of us, just after a moment when we realize that we are living a pipe dream and reality is no more. Then the specialzed comment used to come , why you have done this , may be the other path was much suitable for you than this as that justifies you much, or other blh blh blh ..you as a fighter will never mind these thoughts as it stimultes you to do more and much work but suddenly a shot came and unfortunately from the side which seems to be your’s only and ths shock is like this that now you can’t even put your counter view. Why this happened? Why those who believes to live in your supermecy and love they are becoming wild here plz dont misinterpret the word supremacy…

This is all due to the reason which i can felt is the nastyness of success which they and you haven’t and that makes them the power pack of opinions. Ok this is not the end of one’s dream to be the one who is all along acceptable.

So dreamers from my side all the best to you and long live dreams. But with a caution a dream is not a silly nightmare it can be the destiny if you feel it and if you want to make it realy big and real.

Destiny: A personal definition

Destiny refers to a predetermined course of events. It may be conceived as a predetermined future, whether in general or of an individual. It is a concept based on the belief that there is a fixed natural order to the universe.

This definition may be help you when you want to give debate on this topic as this is as concrete as the concrete itself and life is not always concrete. :-)

Some times it happens that you don’t know what life is all about. It is smooth as you can’t believe sometimes and it is zigzag as you never want to see that phase again and this might be possible that you met with a situation where you feel that ohh!! crap what the hell is this and what next? And here the decision which you takes to survive in that time is the overall replication of your efforts, your dreams and your capabilities. And then we can say destiny plays it’s role.

So destiny is the mixture which comes into the concern when your dreams met with the commitment, loyalty, and hard work along with the right guidance and motivation of your near and dear ones. The last few of words of last line were quite obvious and difficult also. Indeed people can have everything, they put all efforts with full zeal, nut’s still they never stand what is Destiny? This is because the don’t have right guidance and motivation of their near and dear one’s, mind it.

So don’t search here and there if you want to know that why you being made for, what is your destiny and why? All these answers are quite simple and obvious and you can get it very easily. Just make the environment as i thought and explained above.

Mission fails .....Vision can not.....

This is something which looks like a more theoretical and philosophical thought. Though it is not. It is more practical than a theoretical saying but in first eye it looks like. I personally believe that some times we are so obsessed with the feeling that there is a north and south type of difference in between theory and practical. Because science says that hypothesis is not a practical thing.

Today we were busy enough to define the thin line difference between the hypothesis and practical approach. Why? Sorry it is a bit personal question. Though the reason is simple enough ...i am having the age of 25 and i am certainly transforming myself into the "Grahstra Aasram". So it is natural enough that i want a vision which i could have i was 18 but no sorry !!!!!!!!!! as it is always good to come back to the right path ....late than never.

Though we had defined the things earlier also ...but we were not professional then. We were having our personal problems along our way. But now we are free ....at least we thinks so . And it is right also....now there is an open sky in front of us ..we can fly if we want to fly....we can count the height and width of the world if decide. ..............................All depends.


But one thing about which i am sure is ...."Mission fails but vision can not". So what if we lost...in one game ...we are indians and we can make any game interesting even at the last moment....you can ask for the examples....take any thing...any thing like Indian cricket team .....you can lose even when all the batsman are waiting for there chance...you can lose even if you have to make one run and you have one over and 8 wickets.......you take Indian daily shops....hundreds of the time actor in them dies and reborn. .......you take Indian movies....you never distinguish between the hero and "super commando dhruv".

And this thought would make me charge again so that i can start the venture i dreamt once. I don't know the shape ...i don't know the size but one thing which i have is a dream, a vision and a promise. Which i have to kept alive.

Chak de Vivek.

Can u Believe !!!!!! My voice is silent

She sells, sea shells at the sea shore....
She sells, sea shells at the sea shore....
She sells, sea shells at the sea shore....

noooooooooooo nooooooooo this is not a tongue twister man this is the description that why i am silent. And this is not the only reasons. I have many more ...could be ...should be...would be .....and many more like this only.

I read from the "Tough time never lost....." that nothing is fixed nor the success nor the failure though it is not the first time i read but as this is the just next time and right time to quote it.
I don't know why the waves of such a negative thought ..... why the dying attitude to know More about the complexity in which i can blow....why the love to the unstoppable charm to be the perfect...but yes i am having all this and this i know is unstoppable.

Though i crossed all the limits of tough time which i usually believe was surrounded me when i was doing my Mtech and Btech and meanwhile when i was waiting for my posting. Then why this sense of nonsense fear? Does i really turned into the man who lives in a constant fear? Does i have some sense of insecurity ? Does i am the one who in search of excellence lost their presence ?

These are the questions which are much common to all those who seek the books written by "Shiv kheda, Robert H sculler" and many more motivational writer .

No i don't need for any motivational leader or a counsellor. All which i needed is a sound sleep, a great dream, a committed desire and a focused attitude. And then at the end of the day i too can say with the commanding voice that
"Tough time never lost but tough people do".

See you later.

What Should I do ?

Some of my frineds usually say to me that this profession is not my cup of tea and i have to move some where else. Exactly where i have to go they never told to me but yes they realize me that here i am not ablo to use my potential properly as i can do it somewhere else. They do say that some times stage performances as an actor, as an anchor and some times as a consultant i am fit.


Now here comes the opinion of my own soul which takes a deep breath and shut's all of it's door so that not even air is allowed to come out so how can i judge the right way if my soul is not permitting me or better i say not showing me the way i have to choose for being good in my profession.

Ok when some times i even thought to change the stream then the so called fear for the uncertainties and unsuccessful grasp and through me in the net of if or if not and here all the creativity and strength lost which i gained through the suggestions of my friends....

LAkshya the destiny

Hi friends , i know now a days i am too frequent to write a blog but what can i say except this that at this time i am feeling so much enthusiastic that i can't explain in the words.
I know that it is quite easy job to weep in front of the celluloid screen while seeing a movie or any real or non real drama which makes you encountered with your passionate living or whatever you say your emotions. But once the ploy is over it is too difficult to touch those imaginative moments in real life.

How many time you bend on your knees to thank to the god that you got sth for which you really work hard....how many times you weep with the so called "Tears of happiness".How many times your parents hugs you with the saying that "Son you make us proud ".I feel numbers are not even so that you can even move on your finger much. So the question is that why it happens so often that the work which we admire literally, for that we are not so much committed and disciplined.

Why it happens to the few family's only, that the father is having the tears in his eyes for the achievement of his extraordinary son. Why the son is extraordinary even though he too has the same nourishment of the breast feeding during his child hood, then what is the things which makes them special than the common one's. This is the question we have to think about as the parents of our's are also liable to have the same moment of joy which the extraordinary son's bring for their parents..

So the time is even not for away from the reach as there is always a good saying "Efforts may fail but don't fail to make the efforts". So folks do the job honestly which is assigned to you with the full perfection , perception and the follow the rule of being a professional ...
ALL THE BEST